Is this anxiety over wedding planning normal?
November 7, 2008
I'm getting married in 3 months and I'm far along in the planning. As far as I can tell, I have done everything I should be doing and have all the plans to do anything left to be done in place as is expected. I just can't help feeling like I must be forgetting key things. I have checklists and a planner, but as the date comes closer I just feel like I must be forgetting something and something is bound to go wrong. I want to stress that I'm not having wedding jitters at all, I'm just afraid that the event won't be perfect.
I totally hear you! I'm getting married in just under 3 months- totally on schedule, but I have anxiety nightmares probably twice a week. I think it comes from so much pressure for it to be the "perfect day". Something that helps me is if I do something each day in preparation- it can be something small, like writing down a few songs you might like to be played at the reception. If you feel like you're making progress each day, you won't freak out.
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10 Responses to “Is this anxiety over wedding planning normal?”
This is so normal I have a year and a half and I feel the same way. I also feel like at any moment it will all fall apppert. So relaxes as much as you can and know it normal to feel that way.
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By Sekkennight on Apr 18, 2007
In all the weddings something goes wrong. Don't worry, you have a nice laugh after all is finished.
Prepare yourself to that and you will relax.. Weddings are for having fun and nice memories, nor stress.
Congratulations
Oh by the way, don't nag the groom- to -be. They simply don't get it
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By ipekkl on Apr 18, 2007
Of course that's normal. It sounds to me like you're very organized and have things much more under control than most people!
My only advice would be, think of a few things that are unique to you and you think would be fun! Concentrate on those and I think you'll find if you've hired good people, the routine stuff will sort itself out.
Have a great wedding!
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By Peter P on Apr 18, 2007
This is VERY normal. Almost all women go through this, even women with planners to do all the work for them. There are just SOOO many things to do that you feel overwhelmed.
Don't worry about it. So long as the everything is checked off, you are just fine. In all honesty, you will be in such a whirlwind of emotion and happiness and excitement that half of your building could be blown away in a tornado and you may well not notice. Not much at that point is important other than the magic of the marriage you have just entered into. You will do just fine.
Congratulations!
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By Lady D on Apr 18, 2007
Something will go wrong, and it won't be perfect.y planned… but it will be perfect! It is your wedding, and it sounds like things are pretty together…. just calm down, and expect the unexpected. Odds are, anything that goes wrong will just turn into a heartwarming or funny story that will be shared in your family history.
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By lizardking_livesforever on Apr 18, 2007
No it's not normal at all. Striving for perfection means that something is bound to go wrong – from the cake getting smashed to the groom not showing up. Nothing can be perfect, not even for you.
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By Lydia on Apr 18, 2007
You're normal. Nothing will go wrong that you can't either fix or laugh off. It's not the party anyway, it's the rest of your life together.
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By bbbek on Apr 18, 2007
it is normal…but STOP stressing. Everything will turn out beautiful. Have fun and remember that it's about you and your future spouse…not about flowers and cake and planning. (you are the only one that is going to remember the details about it anyway after it's over…I don't mean that in a mean way either…that's just a fact)
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By Kiara on Apr 18, 2007
I totally hear you! I'm getting married in just under 3 months- totally on schedule, but I have anxiety nightmares probably twice a week. I think it comes from so much pressure for it to be the "perfect day". Something that helps me is if I do something each day in preparation- it can be something small, like writing down a few songs you might like to be played at the reception. If you feel like you're making progress each day, you won't freak out.
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By terpsichore622 on Apr 19, 2007
At the stage you are at now in planning, I was very much the same way! I was making new lists every few days and keeping them with me all the time. Now that it's only a week away (I'm so ready!), I've calmed down and decided that I did my best and now it's time to let the chips fall as they may. You'll feel it when things start to really come together and you can relax! I know your hard work will payoff just as mine did.
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By orangeflameninja on Apr 19, 2007