How hard is it to plan a wedding working around the army?
May 29, 2009
My fiance is joining the army, and we plan to get married just not yet.
how hard is it to plan a wedding around the army? how much notice do we get for his leave, etc?
if any?
any personal stories that can help?
thanks!
Nothing works right in the army. People won't like me saying that, but it's the simple truth. My wife and I were very blessed to be able to have a wedding, but it barely–and I mean just barely–happened at all. It wasn't close because of our lack of planning; it was close because of the sporadic nature of army life. Remember, it's hard to plan when your time isn't your own. Even when leave is approved it can be taken back just as fast. You can't count on anything happening a certain way in the army until it's already done and over with. I knew many couples when I was in and I can think of maybe two others that had an actual wedding. The vast majority of them all had the same story: they got the justice of the peace ceremony and planned to do the real thing at some point in the future. Some point in the future seemed to very rarely come. This may seem pessimistic, but I'm just being honest. You two should be honest with yourselves and understand that with the lives you're about to step into you're going to forfeit a lot of personal choices and plans. Don't fool yourself and good luck.
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4 Responses to “How hard is it to plan a wedding working around the army?”
He can come back home right after BCT, and I've heard lots of stories of people getting married then.
And he can plan his leave well ahead of time… as long as he's not deployed.
Soldiers earn 2 1/2 days of leave every month.
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By Travis on May 6, 2009
Nothing works right in the army. People won't like me saying that, but it's the simple truth. My wife and I were very blessed to be able to have a wedding, but it barely–and I mean just barely–happened at all. It wasn't close because of our lack of planning; it was close because of the sporadic nature of army life. Remember, it's hard to plan when your time isn't your own. Even when leave is approved it can be taken back just as fast. You can't count on anything happening a certain way in the army until it's already done and over with. I knew many couples when I was in and I can think of maybe two others that had an actual wedding. The vast majority of them all had the same story: they got the justice of the peace ceremony and planned to do the real thing at some point in the future. Some point in the future seemed to very rarely come. This may seem pessimistic, but I'm just being honest. You two should be honest with yourselves and understand that with the lives you're about to step into you're going to forfeit a lot of personal choices and plans. Don't fool yourself and good luck.
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By Gabe S on May 6, 2009
Navy,not Army, but our wedding was pushed back a couple of times due to unexpected operational commitments. he drove up to NY from Norfolk Thursday after work, we got married on Saturday and we had to drive back on Sunday because he was getting underway on Monday.
best advice I can give is get a clause in ALL contracts that allows for no penalties if the date must change and the contractor can no longer do it.
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By Mrsjvb on May 7, 2009
It should not be a problem as long as he lets the right people knoe well enough ahead of time. Make sure that there are no conflicts between your wedding date and the battaallion or company training or deployment calendar. Then he should apply for leave (preferably during the unit's block leave durin ght esummer or winter, or around easter or thanksgiving). If there is no block leave, then he should fill out a leave form ahead of time (as far ahead of time as possible). Once the leave is signed of on by the company commander, it is unlikely fthet it will get pulled, especially cosidering that you are getting married (accept for war or national emergency).
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By Tyler W on May 7, 2009